I asked her what the next step would be and she said it was to pick a date for surgery. When I inquired about the time frame we were looking at - she transferred me straight to the surgeon's office to discuss that. I spoke with Kendra who told me they had August 21st, August 28th or the whole month of September except the 3rd. She said that Dr. Olsen does his surgeries on either Monday or Tuesday. I told her I needed to discuss it with my family and would call her back. I wasn't expecting an August surgery date. I expected them to call back with approval and then offer me a date sometime in September. At that point, I was going to try to schedule the surgery during Fall Break.
It has always been my intent to disrupt the lives of all concerned in the least possible way with my surgery and recovery. School starts here at the beginning of August. That means Jana needs me to care for Addison. If I am not available, then she has to find someone else. I know her first choice is Jen. I talked with Jen to make sure that she was going to be available to care for Addison while I was recovering. I knew she was looking for a job and that would throw a wrench into the very vague plan that was rolling around in my head. She assured me that she would be available at least through the end of August.
Jana and I then got together and discussed the merits of a date in August, September or waiting for Fall Break. I was surprised when she decided that the August 21st date was the best choice. Her reasoning is sound and that is why I went with it. Todd cares for Addison on his days off - every other Monday and Tuesday. August 21 is a Tueday and is also Todd's day off. If I have surgery that day, she would only need to find daycare for Addison the remaining 3 days of that week and all of the following week. Then, Todd has another Monday and Tuesday off. That puts us at Labor Day weekend. I could easily go back to caring for Addi on Sept. 5th and have a 3 day week to get back in the swing of things. I called the surgeon's office and told Kendra to book me for August 21, 2012. I am so excited and scared at the same time.
On Tuedsay, August 7th, I have to go up to Centennial for an UGI (Upper GI series), my pre-admission testing, and another consult with both the Dietitian and the Surgeon. At this time, I will start my 2 week preop liquid diet. More about that later.
One of the benefits of Bariatric Weight Loss surgery at Centennial is access to their many support groups. Each surgeon in the group expects all their patients to attend meetings of their choice of support group for the first year after surgery. While they can hardly make them mandatory (what are they going to do if you don't go, force feed you chocolate and pastries?) they certainly make it clear that it is strongly encouraged. They do mandate that you attend at least one meeting prior to your surgery. Even before I found out that my surgery was approved and the date was set, I had plans to attend a psychologist led support group on Thursday at noon.
I am so glad I went. Besides Dr. Ihrig and his student assistant, there were 6 of us in attendance at this meeting. He holds a meeting right at the Center for the Treatment of Obesity in their classroom several times a week. I found out that this particular meeting is usually the smallest. I was very comfortable with the small group setting. As each person introduced themselves and explained where they were in the surgical process: date of surgery, weight lost, etc., I discovered I was the only one who was PRE op. All of the others had already had their surgery. One was celebrating her 1 year "surgiversity" and another was just 5 weeks post op. I would estimate that the weight loss for the 5 people who were there was close to my entire weight. One of them was 4 months out and already off her blood pressure medications. Another was 7 months out and no longer taking medication for her previously out of control Type II Diabetes.
I listened as they exchanged recipes and hints for making their protein intake more tasty. I took notes as they talked about how to best take their medications that have to be crushed before consuming them. I nodded as they spoke of how they all explained the main reason for taking control of their weight with this drastic measure was their desire to live longer and stronger for their families. I laughed when one of the women said she was on to "bigger and better things" and the Dr. corrected her with "smaller and better things".
I will definitely continue to seek out and attend support meetings. They have the potential to provide a lot of helpful information - especially from those whom have gone before me. Even 5 weeks after his surgery, one man was able to enlighten me and calm some of my nagging fears just by being there and speaking honestly. I feel if I can come away with 10 new bits of knowledge from each meeting - it is well worth the trip.
Here - in no particular order - are 10 things I learned from my first support meeting:
- 1. Kroger sugar free banana popsicles are the BOMB!
- 2. After surgery, I will no longer be able to swallow a pill or capsule whole. They have to be crushed or pierced. If I put the crushed pill on a slip of paper, I can position the medication at the back of my tongue (past my taste buds), quickly take a swig of water and not taste a thing.
- 3. Not every program for weight loss after surgery is the same.
- 4. No matter where I attend support meetings - I have to take what I can use and leave the rest behind.
- 5. Sugar free bar-be-que sauce is found at Kroger in the pharmacy department - not the condiment aisle.
- 6. Walmart only has sugar free banana popsicles in a variety pack.
- 7. myfitnesspal.com is an awesome free app for keeping track of calories, protein, carbs, sugar, etc. I can even put my recipes in and it will tell me just how healthy (or not) it is.
- 8. Fat free Greek yogurt mixed with some dry ranch dressing mix makes a tasty alternative to low fat mayo, a nice dip or a super flavoring for my protein source.
- 9. I can mix my crushed pills with sugar free chocolate syrup to mask the taste of the medication. (And quite possibly make me NEVER EVER crave the taste of chocolate again!)
- 10. No matter what I weigh - there is always someone who weighs more than me or less than me.
I can share my Journey with others - but it will always be MY Journey.